He understands that he does not have the right to control and dominate you.

You don't feel afraid when you are with him.

He does not coerce or force you into having sex when you don't want to.

You can express anger toward him without feeling intimidated.

He does not make you feel responsible for his anger or frustration.

He respects your opinion even if he doesn't agree with it.

He respects your right to say "no."

You can negotiate without being humiliated and belittled by him.

You don't have to ask permission to go out, go to school, get a job, or take other independent actions.

He listens to you and respects what you have to say.

He recognizes that he is not "cured" and that changing his behavior, attitudes, and beliefs is a lifelong process.

He no longer does                              (fill in the blank with any behavior that used to precede his violence, manipulation, or emotional abuse).

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