Emotional and Economic Attacks
Abuse: Name-calling; mocking; accusing; blaming; yelling; screaming; making
humiliating remarks or gestures.
Emotional "guilt-tripping;" manipulating children to obtain what they want form their partner; telling you what to do.
Always claiming to be right and insisting that their statements are "the truth" and more logical.
down in front of other people; attacking the character of you, your friends and family.
Lying; withholding information; cheating on you; being overly jealous.
Having a pattern of not following through.
Not respecting feelings, rights, or opinions.
Minimizing, Denying & Blaming: Making light of your concerns; saying the abuse didn't happen; saying you or someone else were the
cause for their behavior
Not letting you work; refusing to give you money or taking it from you.
Abusing alcohol or drugs; threatening suicide or other forms of self-harm; deliberately saying or doing things that will have
Prevention you form seeing friends or relatives; monitoring phone calls; telling you where you can and cannot go.
uninvited visits or calls; following you, embarrassing you in public; refusing to leave when asked.
Acts of Violence
Intimidation: Making angry or threatening
gestures; use of physical size to intimidate.
Destroying your possessions (e.g. furniture); punching walls; throwing and/or breaking things.
and/or carrying out threats to hurt you or others.
Degrading treatment based on your sex or sexual orientation; using force or coercion to obtain sex or perform sexual acts.
Being violent to you, your children, household pets or others; slapping; punching; grabbing; kicking; choking; pushing; biting;
burning; stabbing; shoots; etc..
of weapons, keeping weapons around which frighten you; threatening to attempting to kill you or those you love.
The higher number of these "red flag" behaviors you recognize in your situation or someone you know the more at risk
for becoming a victim of domestic violence. See our Safety Planning Section for steps you can take to protect yourself and/or your children from further